Hvis du er en omsorgsperson som bruker bæresjal for dine barn, så kan dette være noen av spørsmålene du blir stilt. Jeg ble ofte spurt denne typen spørsmål da jeg bar babyene mine. I tillegg var folk bekymret for at jentene mine ble bortskjemte fordi de ble båret for mye. Men det å bære barna våre var det beste for dem på mange måter.
G var en baby som hadde behov for å bli båret hele tiden. Fra den dagen hun ble født, brukte vi et bæresjal med henne. Vi fortsatte å bære henne til hun var over to år! Det var ikke bare jeg som brukte bæresjal; det var både faren hennes, og til og med bestefaren hennes! Hun likte å være så nærme oss som mulig. I tillegg likte hun ikke å ligge i vogna, så hver dag bar vi henne på magen, og etter hvert på ryggen vår.
I februar var jeg på et mor -og barn yogakurs (yogimommy.no) for å snakke om bæresjal og «babywearing / carrying». Jeg var både spent og stolt over å være med på dette, for dette er noe jeg er godt kjent med, og har opplevd selv! I tillegg laget Marit (yoga læreren) og jeg en instruksjonsvideo om hvordan man knyter et bæresjal.
Fordelene med å bruke bæresjal er mange:
- Noen babyer gråter mindre når de blir båret
- Det knyttes et sterkere bånd mellom foreldrene og babyen
- Babyer liker stadig berøring
- Foreldrene får hendene fri, og kan gjøre mye mens barna ligger i sjalet og får litt ekstra kos
- Foreldrenes bevegelse skaper input til barnets balanseorgan. Dette er positivt for barnets utvikling
For det meste, liker babyer å være på magen eller ryggen til foreldrene sine, men ikke alle. O var ikke så fornøyd med det, da hun var baby. Hun var veldig glad i å ha litt ekstra med plass rundt henne, og hun sov veldig godt i barnevogna på dagtid.
Når man skal velge bæresjal, er det viktig å finne et bæresjal eller en baby-carrier som passer til både babyen og foreldre. I begynnelsen brukte vi et strekk-bæresjal, og da jentene våre ble tyngre, brukte vi et Ellevill bæresjal, som er laget av vevd stoff.
Under har jeg listet opp noen råd fra www.babywearinginternational.com som du kan følge hvis du velger å bruke et bæresjal. Og selvfølgelig kan du også se på videoen vår.
For meg og mannen min, var det å bære barna våre i bæresjal veldig koselig, og jeg ville helt klart gjort det igjen!
Marit Andersen-Lopez = yogimommy.no
Spenst Brygga, Dampskipsbrygga 12-14, 1607 , Fredrikstad, Norway
Hunziker. U.A., Barr. R.G., Increased carrying reduces infant crying: A randomized controlled trial, Pediatrics (1986); 77(5)
Babywearing Rules & Advice
- Make sure your baby can breathe.Baby carriers allow parents to be hands-free to do other things … but you must always remain active in caring for your child. No baby carrier can ensure that your baby always has an open airway; that’s your job.
- Never allow a baby to be carried, held, or placed in such a way that his chin is curled against his chest. This rule applies to babies being held in arms, in baby carriers, in infant car seats, or in any other kind of seat or situation. This position can restrict the baby’s ability to breathe. Newborns lack the muscle control to open their airways. They need good back support in carriers so that they don’t slump into the chin-to-chest position.
- Never allow a baby’s head and face to be covered with fabric.Covering a baby’s head and face can cause her to “rebreathe” the same air, which is a dangerous situation. Also, covering her head and face keeps you from being able to check on her. Always make sure your baby has plenty of airflow. Check on her frequently.
- Never jog, run, jump on a trampoline, or do any other activity that subjects your baby to similar shaking or bouncing motion. “This motion can do damage to the baby’s neck, spine and/or brain,” explains the American Chiropractic Association.
- Never use a baby carrier when riding in a car. Soft baby carriers provide none of the protection that car seats provide.
- Use only carriers that are appropriate for your baby’s age and weight. For example, frame backpacks can be useful for hiking with older babies and toddlers but aren’t appropriate for babies who can’t sit unassisted for extended periods. Front packs usually have a weight range of 8 to 20 pounds; smaller babies may slip out of the carrier, and larger babies will almost certainly cause back discomfort for the person using the carrier
A Few Guidelines for Everyday Safety
- Inspect your carrier regularly to ensure it is sound. Check the fabric, seams, and any buckles or other fasteners. Do this every time you use it to avoid complacency. Don’t use a carrier unless it is structurally sound.
- When using carriers out and about, check that your baby is secure by using reflective surfaces – such as car or store windows – as mirrors, by double checking the baby’s position with your hands, or by enlisting the help of another set of eyes.
- If you shouldn’t do it while pregnant because of an enhanced risk of falls, you shouldn’t do it while carrying a baby. For example, your risk of falling increases when you climb a ladder, ride a horse, ride a bicycle, or go skating. Your risk of falling also increases on slippery surfaces like the ones you encounter when you go bowling, sailing, or spelunking. When a baby is in his mother’s womb, he has built-in protection, but a baby in arms or in a carrier does not have that protection.
- If you should wear protective gear while doing an activity, you shouldn’t do it while carrying a baby. Baby carriers do not provide hearing protection, eye protection, protection from projectiles such as rocks flung from a lawn mower, protection from fumes or dust such as occur during lawn mowing and some household cleaning tasks, or protection from falls.
- Protect your baby from the elements. Little limbs and heads may need sun protection. Don’t dress your baby too warmly in the summer, and don’t use a baby carrier under circumstances that could cause the baby to suffer heat stress. Don’t let your baby get too cold in the winter. (There are some excellent coats and ponchos designed especially for use with baby carriers, and you can also improvise or make your own.)
- Be aware of what your baby can reach. In particular, be aware that a baby on your back can reach things you can’t see.
- Don’t put loose items in the carrier with your baby that can be choking hazards, that can poke your baby, or that can cover your baby’s face.
- Other Things to Consider: Carrying a baby in arms or in a carrier is a task for a responsible adult who can assess risk in a mature way. Here are some things to consider about specific activities.
Cooking. Carrying a baby while cooking subjects the baby to an enhanced risk of burns. A baby in arms or in a carrier is at stovetop height, and burns can occur. Reaching into a hot oven while carrying a baby similarly puts the baby at risk for burns.
Boating. While it might seem more secure to use a baby carrier to board a small boat than to carry a baby in arms, the safer practice is to have the baby wear a personal flotation device. Personal flotation devices are generally not compatible with baby carriers. Moreover, if you fell into the water, having your baby securely held to your body by a baby carrier would be a grave danger.
Safety Guidelines for Learning New Carries
Most people easily learn front or hip carries, but when learning these carries you should still support your baby with your arm until you are confident that your baby is securely held in the carrier. Back carries are more challenging, but the reward is tremendous liberation and, for heavier babies and toddlers, greater comfort for the person carrying the child. These guidelines apply to all carries but are particularly important when learning back carries:
- Practice with a doll or teddy first. Understanding the instructions with your mind is just the first step; your body needs to understand them as well. Doing a few “dry runs” will help you build the muscle memory for doing a particular carry.
- It is best to try a new carry with your baby when you are both well rested and generally content.
- Use a spotter … but only another adult who accepts the responsibility of keeping your baby from falling. The spotter must be able to catch the baby at any instant if he or she should start to fall.
- Use a mirror.
- Start low.Most carries can be accomplished while sitting on the floor. As you build muscle memory and confidence, you can move up, next lifting your baby onto your body from a bed or chair.